Lolita Vs Lolita (?!)

Soo lately I have been thinking that lolita is split into two categories. One is the really-really strict one with no bending the rules and only wearing angelid pretty and bürando and the other one is that bends the rules SOMETIMES without making the outfit looking cosplay and ita and trying to fit some other styles with lolita. For example steam punk lolita, pirate lolita and things like that arent the official lolita styles. I would consider myself to be the second one. Which one you think is better?